How to keep yourself afloat during separation!
Family lawyers typically talk legalese to their clients. After all law school is great at teaching about legislation, precedents, procedures and case law. This would be perfect if family law clients were robots!
Kind of like, but not quite, the situation involving some doctors, brilliant diagnosticians, with crappy dispositions, and pathetic bedside manners (a la House?).
The main difference is that unlike family law clients the role of the medical patient has always been to take direction, while the primary role of the family law client is to give direction.
Unfortunately however, as I have experienced over many years as a family lawyer, family law clients are often emotionally incapable of providing good direction to their family lawyer.
This is not surprising since separation itself often triggers intense and overwhelming emotional shock and trauma, while the family law system only multiplies the feelings of hopelessness and despair.
Since I have always been, and remain a firm believer that the client not their lawyer, makes the choices in their own family law matter, once provided the available legal options and alternatives, a client unable to make good choices imperils their own best interests.
This is why I am an advocate for anyone experiencing separation and divorce to obtain emotional support and counselling in conjunction with receiving good legal support.
One without the other is like a boat without a paddle. Trust me; you definitely do not want to be up this legal stream without a paddle. And throwing yourself overboard is not recommended.
This is also why I started the kitchentabledivorce.ca support group, a place where people can find professional guidance along with the support of others in the same boat!